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Workplace: Seize The First Four Minutes Of Communication.

2010/10/27 9:25:00 40

People are willing to be friends or when to become friends.

Nader Zuo Ning

In the book "communication", the first four minutes of contact between strangers are crucial.

In his book, he said to friends who had established a new friendship: "when you meet strangers in social situations, you should focus on him for four minutes.

Many people's lives will change accordingly.

You can notice that most people do not concentrate their attention on the people they have just met. He keeps looking around and seems to be looking for more interesting people.

If anyone treats you like this, you will not like him.

When we are introduced to new friends, the author says we should try to be friendly and confident.

"Generally speaking," he said, "people like to love their own people."

Besides, we should not allow others to think that we are very conceited and show interest or expression to others.

Sympathy

It's very important.

Know that others also have their own needs, fears and hopes.

By listening to the above advice, you may say, I am not a person who is friendly or confident in nature. Is it not honest?

Dr. zoIn believes that as long as a few times, it will change the way you socialize.

As long as we want to change our character, we will eventually get used to it. It's like buying a new car. You may not feel familiar at first, but it is always better than the old one.

Does it mean that

nature

It is a dishonest behavior to show friendliness or confidence in a person who is not friendly and self-confident. Dr. zuin said: perhaps, "complete honesty" is often inappropriate for social relationships, especially in the first few minutes of contact, there may be various manifestations, but proper performance is the best way to communicate with strangers.

This is not a time to complain about your health problems or find other people's shortcomings. This is not the time to put your views and impression together.

The same applies to family members or friends, and to husbands and wives, parents and children, problems often occur in the first four minutes after their long periods.

Dr. zoen suggests that we must be careful in these few minutes. If you discuss something unpleasant, we need to solve it later.

The author claims that interpersonal relationships should be treated as a compulsory course in schools as well as reading, writing, and mathematics. The success of life is mainly based on the fact that we get along with the people around us, which is at least as important as the knowledge we have.